Why Comfort and Style Shouldn't be Mutually Exclusive
This post is a collaboration with Aureus. Concept, styling, thoughts, and opinions are all my own.
There’s a reason women in stilettos and skin-tight dresses stand out. And, at least in my opinion, it’s not because they look good (although, yes, they might). It’s because, half of the time, you can just tell that they’re not comfortable. You can almost taste their pain as they wobble onward with ever-so-slightly bent knees, pulling their skirts down every few steps in an earnest attempt to prevent them from riding up. And I won’t lie. A lot of the time, I am that girl.
I don’t know why we put ourselves through this torture all the time. Yes, heels look killer and that leather skirt you love so much but can’t sit down in is the most badass thing you own, but let’s be frank here–more often than not, they’re not worth the effort. Sure, certain events will require you to sacrifice some comfort (because I am in no way advocating that you need to wear flats to Vegas). Say, a work event that demands you wear those skinny 4” pumps at the back of your closet that you usually do well to avoid. But doing things like this don’t always have to be the norm. Wincing in pain with each step and constantly tugging at your clothes will never be en vogue, no matter how to-die-for the shoes are. And honestly, there is something to be said about exploring outfits that you feel sexy and confident in that are not the standard heels-and-LBD ensemble.
Today, I was feeling like lounging the day away in sweatpants. But it was date night, and–of course–I wanted to look presentable! So, I channeled pieces that were about as comfy as it gets, while adding a few finishing touches that made the entire thing feel a bit more, I don’t know, feminine. You know how sometimes an entire look can be inspired by one single thing sitting in your closet that you’ve been dying to wear? These burgundy slip-on chelsea high-tops from Aureus were sort of my starting point for this whole thing. They are comfortable (literally, you just throw on some fun socks and slide right into them) and have a bit of an edgy, streetwear vibe to them. To bring out this vibe a bit more and really drive it home, I decided to throw on some harem pants. But, to make things a bit more refined and date night appropriate, I finished the look off with a lace-up leotard and dark, rougey lips.
There are definitely a couple things in my closet that are annoying and uncomfortable. But 9 times out of 10, you’ll find me reaching for the things that make me feel as good as I’m hoping to look. Whether it’s a signature pair of kicks or a flowy maxi dress, these are the things that are going to make you own your clothes, and not the other way around. So, that said, here are my 3 tips for finding–and owning–your signature comfy style:
- Go through your closet and literally get rid of anything and everything that doesn’t make you feel at least 80% on your A-game. Sell it, donate it, whatever you need to do. Do this with reckless abandon. The less items you surround yourself with that don’t make you feel like your best self, the better.
- Only buy things because they are comfortable AND stunning. Return anything that’s not (even if it means sending back that cool-but-just-a-half-size-too-tight dress you bought online).
- Don’t be afraid to think outside normal, expected pairings when it comes to putting together an outfit. Consider maxi dresses and blazers for work, chunky sandals and boyfriend jeans for brunch, or even high top sneakers and statement leotards for date night. When you prioritize the way you feel just as much as you do the way you look, odds are this can inspire that much more creativity within your personal style than you might have ever expected.
(Oh, and if you made it this far and you’re still wondering what date night was this time around, we grabbed some wine, picked up In-N-Out, and went to a drive-in movie!)