Take a Wider Stance on Life
Think back to when you were in high school, or college. How did you dress, and why?
When I think back to those days, I almost shudder at the thought of some of my clothing decisions. I have always liked style, but that doesn’t mean I’ve always understood it. And it seems like, when looking back at my old photos or thinking about some of the things I used to go out in public wearing, about 70% of my clothes all focused on one thing: being as tight as possible.
At that age, I wanted everything to be skin-tight and physically accentuating. Skinny jeans needed to fit perfectly, dresses needed to be short and body-hugging, heels (if I had to wear them) needed to be high. I was more self-conscious, and more concerned about other people’s perceptions of my appearance, and quite frankly, of my maturity. Anyone else (especially women) feel like your younger years were all about dressing for other people, and focusing on doing things for other people’s approval, with little time ever actually spent focusing on just doing you?
Being self conscious is the unfortunate bane of my entire existence, and probably will be for the foreseeable future. So, I’m not saying that, all of a sudden, I’ve taught myself how to be absolutely confident in my own skin. I haven’t. But what I have noticed is this. The older I get, the more I have started to deviate from the desire to wear (and do) things for other people. I’ve started trading my fitted tanks for cozy sweaters, my uncomfortable stilettos for booties and block heels, and most recently–my über-tight body-hugging pants for a bit of a wider stance on life. I’ve started chasing after a career that I am defining as I go. Not one that was laid out for me on stepping stones based on what everyone else said would “pay well” or be “easy to get.” I've also started focusing on how strong my body is–not how slim, or tall, or blemish-free it is (or isn't).
Call it a lack of caring, or call it something else, but the way I see it, learning how to gain an irreverence for what other people think of you is bliss. And, I don’t know about you, but cozy sweaters and wide-leg pants are damn comfortable. No matter what your own version of wide-leg pants may be, whether it’s practicing how to speak your mind after years of letting other people think for you, or being unafraid to wear your heart on your sleeve, or learning how to follow the passions that other people told you you couldn’t achieve–whatever it may be, try it on for size and just go for it. These are the years to (try to) stop letting our fear of other people’s perceptions of us weigh us down and hold us back. Wear the pants any way you damn well please, and own your life with unapologetic abandon.